Personal Growth Mentoring Is Often The Key To Self Fulfilment

By Carolyn Hayes


One would think that those people that have a nice house, enough to eat, an education and the chance to enjoy life will be satisfied. This is not always the case. When their basic needs are fulfilled, many people start striving towards discovering the deeper meaning of life. They want to make a difference and they want to develop as individuals. To help them on this road of discovery, numerous people opt for help by means of personal growth mentoring.

When people are determined to better themselves, they are often at a loss about where to begin. They do not know what their options are and they are often not even sure in which ways they want to be growing as individuals. In such cases it may be a good idea to hire the services of a mentor that specialize in helping people to achieve their individual and unique development objectives.

It is vital to understand and to accept that no mentor can offer a secret towards self fulfilment and happiness. These are things that can only be discovered on a very private level. The role of the mentor is not to offer instant solutions. Rather, his role is to help his client to discover himself and to identify his own needs and wants. This will be different for every person.

Most mentors realize that their clients do not know themselves. Their initial focus will therefore be on a process of self discovery. The client must be helped to look at himself as he is, not as he perceives himself to be. In the process, which can be painful, weaknesses, secret wishes, past disappointments and fears are often exposed. The mentor will help the client to face these issues and to identify the areas of improvement.

Once these areas that needs to be developed are identify, it is necessary to set objectives. Far too many people develop vague objectives that indicate an intention to do something about this or that. This is not good enough. An objective needs to be exact. It needs to be measurable and it must contain a target date. If this is not done there is no way in which to clearly know when an objective is achieved.

Even the very best and realistic objectives are no good if some plans are not activated to ensure that they will be achieved. The mentor will help his client to draw up realistic plans that consist of a number of smaller steps that will eventually lead to the achievement of the objective. In this way the client is continually motivated by achieving each small step of a definite plan.

It can be difficult to choose a suitable mentor. The relationship between the mentor and his client need to be based on mutual trust and confidentiality. Many professional mentors offer a free first consultation and some will even refer the prospective client to a colleague that is better equipped to fulfil the needs of the individual concerned. Some people change mentors every now and again.

Man will always strive to be better and happier. The desire for self actualization is not an unhealthy thing. People that experience self fulfilment are more mature and productive. They are more aware of their environments and they are more like to make a positive contribution to society.




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